Victory over Loss
I
met Gillian in 2000. She come into New
Life Ministries and ministered to other
women, even pregnant women and encouraged
them. I was shocked when I discovered
she had lost her twin girls only 6 weeks
earlier. Gillian didn’t just talk the
talk but she walked the walk. She is
more than qualified to share on how to
overcome grief after loss. Her message below
is a powerful one that I know will be a
blessing to those of you who have lost a
loved one. If
you have a testimony on how you overcame
grief after loss then
click
here to
share it with us.
Overcoming Grief through the Word of
God
by
Gillian Robson
The
God that we serve is a God of the
impossible! He is not out there
somewhere far away but is oh so close. He
said in His Word that He will never leave us
nor forsake us and will be with us until the
end of the age.
What I have been through… My
journey hasn’t been a pleasant journey but I
praise God for who He is! First
my mum who was a strong Christian was
diagnosed with Cancer in 1997. She was
tired and wanted to be ‘absent from the body
and present with the Lord’ so she made the
decision not to go through surgery or
chemotherapy. She was given only 3
months to live. She ended up living for
2 years and I believe it was because we
continued to stand and speak life over her
BUT at the end she didn’t want to be here so
we had to let her leave. I remember
visiting her before she died and while I went
to comfort her, she ended up comforting
me! She had a strong faith and
relationship with the Lord and she told me to
make sure I was anchored in Jesus.
After
she died I was totally distressed! But
I thank God because I had a dream of my
mother. I saw myself walking down the
High street in London near Wembley and I ran
into my mum. I said to her “What are
you doing here?” “We are on our way to
your funeral.” “Mum you’re dead!” But
she replied, “I am not dead!” “Look at
me, I am alive!” “Look at my hands, my
feet and my face, see they are new and I am
alive!”
Praise the Lord!!! When
our loved ones die, it is only their physical
body that dies, their spirit and soul live
on! There is no sin, sickness, cancer,
death, pain or tears in Heaven! My mum
is alive and well!
Don’t Blame God! God
did not take my mothers life. Cancer
took her life! Cancer is a horrible
disease that sucked the very life force out
of my mother. It reduced her from a
plump lively woman to a bag of skin and
bones. It is important to note that God will
not override someone’s will. He can’t force
someone to believe or to fight and stay if
they want to die. So we knew our
prayers for mum to be healed and stay were
futile, because she wanted to die and be with
the Lord.
Back to my story…
Around that time my sister lost two babies at
term close together. She was devastated
and she was paralysed by fear and couldn’t go
on. She decided not to have any more
children because to lose another would be too
painful. I prayed that she would
receive strength and comfort from the Lord as
while she was a Christian she hadn’t
continued like I had so she didn’t know the
Lord intimately or what His Word said.
I also had my own personal grief. After
numerous years of infertility I finally
conceived only to lose my twin girls at 22
weeks into the pregnancy. This was too
much for me! It felt like Satan had
come to sift me like wheat. But I thank
my God that He prayed for me that my faith
wouldn’t fail me. When I went through
that dark area of my life we had no support
as we lived in Australia and all our family
was in the UK. Well meaning Christians
said awful things to us like “God took our
babies because He knew best”. They
tried to comfort us with what they thought
was the truth. But let me tell you
something! God does NOT kill
babies! He does NOT kill our
family! The God we serve is a God of
life and there is no death in Him. He
is a life giving Spirit! My life wasn’t
lining up with the will of God and what His
Word said and while I didn’t understand, I
knew that God didn’t have a hand in it.
So, I had to put my circumstances and
experiences aside for a while.
My Solution…
I asked God what I was going to do, as the
grief was consuming me. At times I felt
like I was going out of my mind. What
was I to do? The Lord told me to go to
His Word to see what it said. I
was in distress, but I had to do something.
To find a solution I had to go to the
Word. The Lord gave me this scripture
and spoke it so clearly to me and so
specifically.
Is 53:1 (Amp)
who has believed our report and to whom is
the arm of the Lord is revealed?
God said ‘Do you believe me or do you believe
your circumstances, your doctor, or what your
Christian friends are saying? “Whose
report do you believe?” He
then led me to read from
verse 4 which
said… “SURELY
I have borne your griefs and your
sorrows…Jesus was wounded for your
transgressions, He was bruised for your
iniquities; The chastisement of your peace
was upon Him, and by His stripes you are
healed and made
whole”.
He
then said to me … “You
don’t have to be going out of your
mind” “You
don’t have to bear that grief!
“I
have taken that from you when I was nailed to
the Cross”. “What
you need to do is to release your faith,
receive my peace and go about your
business!”.
I replied “glory, glory glory!”
Victory over Grief…
Do you know what it is like to feel like you
are going out of your mind, grief is
swallowing you and you’re a Christian, and
the unbelievers around you flourishing but
you’re dying inside? But God had said
to me “Don’t worry about that, whose report
do you believe?" So I took that as mine and
ran with it and every time the enemy would
come in my ear and say “You are cursed, you
will never have children, you’re this, or
you’re that…” I would say “You are a liar
devil!” “The Bible says Christ has
redeemed me from every curse and I will have
children because it is written blessed is the
fruit that comes from my body!” “And
blessed, means prosperous, living and alive
and does not mean death!” “So you are a
liar!”
Every time the devil came to me to crush me I
would pick up the Word and batter him with
it. And that is what you need to do
too! But first, you need to know what
God’s Word says about whatever situation you
are going through. Wether it is marriage
breakdown, financial problems, or even
infertility because God has the answer!
And then we don’t sit around waiting for God
to do something because He did it all on the
Cross. When He said “It is Finished”,
He meant it is Finished! When you
come into relationship with Jesus, you are
born again from above and you have entered a
Covenant relationship that cannot be broken
because it was made by the blood of
Jesus! We didn’t have anything to do
with it! We’ve just entered in by
receiving him by believing in our heart and
then confessing with our mouth, so go about
your business!
I now have 2 girls, but after I lost my twins
the Dr diagnosed a bacterial infection and I
was told that I would probably not be able to
carry a baby to full term and if I did
conceive I had to have medication for the
whole 9 months. But I had met Nerida
and she stood with me. I researched
God’s Word and knew that the number of my
days would be fulfilled and the number of the
days of my pregnancy would also be
fulfilled. I knew that was 40 weeks so
the number of days of my next pregnancy was
going to be fulfilled. After the
diagnosis I was checked several times and
there was no change but I stood my ground and
declared that I believed that I was healed
because of Jesus. And I began to
confess and declare that and stop praying
about it. I believed that I was healed
when I had first prayed and I made the
decision not to be worried or to fret about
it. And when I was 5 months pregnant in
my next pregnancy the tests came back all
clear from that condition so I no longer
needed the medication! There has
been so sign of that condition ever
since! And God is not a respecter of
persons! Anyone can believe God and
stand against any sickness. We are
redeemed from every form of sickness and
disease. Even ones that haven’t been
discovered yet!
We have been redeemed from the curse and are
now in the blessing. Our circumstances
may not look like it but the truth remains
the same that we have been redeemed! No
curse can operate in your life!
Declare, “I am not where the curse is because
I’m in Christ!” Open your mouth and
speak to the situation! You don’t have
to accept things that come your way because
there are things that come that are not the
will of God for your life. The Bible
doesn’t say to live by karma, or to live by
circumstances but to live by faith, which
means to live by the Word of God. And
His Word says we have been redeemed from the
curse and that includes sin and eternal
death, sickness and disease, grief and
sorrow, loss and lack, despair and
hopelessness. Read
Deut 28:15 onwards
and read all those curses. That is what
we are redeemed from! But if any curse
is being manifested in any area of your life
then you need to stand up and say. “No!
Stop! I know my rights. I have an
inheritance so stop in the name of
Jesus!”
The Victory is in your mouth!
Open your mouth and declare the goodness of
God! It begins with your words.
And as you do your thoughts, body, and
actions will begin to line up. But if
you say “woe is me, nothing good ever happens
to me” then it wont and if you say “I’m
depressed” then you will be depressed!
Or “That one over there always gets blessed
and I don’t” Then you will have
whatever you say.
The reason why some believers seem to be
blessed more than others is because they are
probably doing what God says. The Bible
says in James ‘do
not deceive yourself”.
You need to be a doer and not just a hearer
of the Word. You can hear and hear but
if you don’t have any application then
nothing will change. Its just like
reading a diet book. I’ve done that but
I continue to get bigger. Why?
Because I am not applying what I read by
doing what it says. It’s the same
truth! So while we may read the Word
and get all excited we need to do
something. Faith comes by
hearing! Let the hearing of the Word be
out of your own mouth by reading the
Scriptures out aloud to yourself. And
as you do this, you will begin to believe it
and you will begin to then act like a
conqueror in life.
1 Pet 5:6-8
Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty
hand of God, that He may exalt you in due
time,
7
casting all your care upon Him, for He cares
for you.8
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary
the devil walks about like a roaring lion,
seeking whom he may
devour.
The devil cannot just devour you. He is
looking for someone to deceive! I made
the decision that he cannot devour me because
my life is hid in Christ and I know the truth
in the Word. The devil is looking for
someone who doesn’t know the Word. Someone
who hasn’t taken the time to study it and how
to rightly divide it so they know what it is
saying to them. Unfortunately, many do
not know what is or what is not the will of
God for their life so they don’t know what to
do or where to turn.
1 Pet 5:9
Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing
that the same sufferings are experienced by
your brotherhood in the world.
Stand steadfast in the faith, in other words
stand steadfast in the Word of God.
Don’t be bogged down! Resist, be
watchful at the onset and stand your
ground! Let God know what is bothering
you! Cast your cares onto Him and the
God of peace will give you peace! But
don’t walk away and say I am still anxious.
No! Say “I receive His peace”.
And when those anxious thoughts come in, say,
“Get off me!”, “God said He took
it all so I am going to walk in His
peace!” But if you take it back then you
will be anxious all over again! If God
said He will give you His peace then you need
to take and receive it by faith and go and
walk in peace. This is exercising your
faith!
2 Cor 10:4-5
For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal
but mighty in God for pulling down
strongholds,
5
casting down arguments and every high thing
that exalts itself against the knowledge of
God, bringing every thought into captivity to
the obedience of Christ.
Cast down arguments, reasonings and anything
that does not line up with the Word of
God. Anything that comes into your mind
that doesn’t line up with the Word needs to
be cast down. Cast down means to
fling it down, throw it down. Do not
entertain it!
Heb 2:14-15
Inasmuch then as the children have partaken
of flesh and blood, He Himself likewise
shared in the same, that through death He
might destroy him who had the power of death,
that is, the devil,
15
and release those who through fear of death
were all their lifetime subject to
bondage.
Before I was a Christian I was terrified of
dying as it was so final. But after
coming to the Lord I realized that Jesus has
undone all of that! As a believer to be
absent from the body is to be present with
the Lord. In 1 Thess it tells us that
an angel will give a shout and Jesus will
return! But it gets better it says that
the dead in Christ will rise first then we
will go together! This means that my
babies will get up and my mother will get
up! We will not proceed them. We
will be caught up together with them.
When our twins died, I told my husband not to
worry about our girls because one day they
are going to bust out of that grave!
Death has no sting! The grave has no
victory over a believer! Our Lord Jesus
who died for us has the keys and has
destroyed him who had the power of
death. He disarmed powers and
principalities and made a public display over
them! Death is just a temporary
separation! If you have lost loved ones and
have lost babies then you will see them again
one day in Heaven.
I’ve walked it and I’ve lived it. I have gone
through flood and through the fire and I
don’t even smell like smoke! I smell
like roses because the God I serve is a
restorer; there is a joy of Salvation so I do
not walk around with a long face. If I
don’t tell people what I have been through
then they would never know because I am a
happy soul. You can’t keep me
down!
This is only some of what Gillian shares in
her message
'Overcoming Grief through the Word of
God'.
If you would like to listen to the whole
message then go to our
resources
page or
visit our
on-line
store.
Gillian's testimony
Victory over Loss is
also available.
